As gay men, we have always been on the frontlines of moving our community and culture forward.

You know from your own life that the long arc of history may bend toward justice and progress – but it takes people like us to bend it in that direction.

I know you didn’t ask for that burden. There’s no doubt that life as a straight man would be easier. But here we are – we are who we are. And so, we get to make a choice about how we live this human experience – we can suffer from the way things should’ve been, could’ve been, or ought to be. Or we can choose to suffer toward creating the life we want and deserve.

I suspect that you and I share a sense of responsibility to keep pushing forward – for ourselves, for the people we love, for the causes we care about. That responsibility means stepping into the fullness and certainty of who we are. Because the truth of the matter is, in order for us to move our community and culture forward, we have to begin that work within ourselves.

Too many of us grew up feeling like we had to hide parts of ourselves in order to fit in. Some of us got really good at something we could show off – so that we could hide something we didn’t want people to see. Some of us got so caught up trying to please others that we don’t even know our own passion or purpose. And for some of us, the pain of being betrayed by those who were supposed to love us unconditionally has left us feeling unable to trust anyone to love us for who we truly are.

These kinds of trouble are fertile ground for anxiety, depression, loneliness, and shame.

I know that struggle intimately.

And I get it – not only are you working on yourself, but it’s just a weird time to be a gay man. Not just because of the haters, but also because of the fast pace of change that we’re experiencing in our own community. It’s a whirlwind of uncertainty and confusion – and sometimes it feels like you don’t belong in any community. I get it.

The Gay Men’s Forum is a place where you’ll discover that you’re not alone in those feelings.

The Gay Men’s Forum is an opportunity to be in community with people like us – to take a step toward discovering who you are without the fear, shame, and feelings of being alone. It’s an opportunity to find new ways of looking at creating a life experience that is truly and authentically yours. It’s a place to learn how you can hold onto yourself in uncertain situations. It’s a place to begin looking at what makes you different as a superpower.

I believe that when you can start to embrace who you are, you’ll not just unlock the possibilities for your own life, but you’ll pave a new way for the people who will follow you. You’ll create a legacy of leadership, community, generosity, meaning, and love.

Here’s your truth – you’ve made it this far – you’ve survived.

Now let’s thrive in a way that brings us a deep sense of meaningful satisfaction. Let’s do the work of breaking free from the mindsets that hold us back, keep us stuck, and make us feel small.

Join me at the Gay Men’s Forum where we will work together to discover the parts of ourselves that need to be unleashed if we are to create the future we want.

I’ve created a curriculum designed to help you embrace your power, express your personal freedom, build deeper relationships, and gain confidence in who you are and what you can create in life.

Remember, you are standing on the shoulders of giants. You owe it to yourself to become someone whose shoulders will raise the next generation of men like you. 

I have faith in you and the impact you can have in this world. I look forward to seeing you at the Gay Men’s Forum.